Khalil ur Rehman Qamar - A Misunderstood Man and a Writer or a Proud Person

Khalil ur Rehman Qamar - Urdu Drama Writer 

Well, dear readers it is far easyto comment and to put anyone under blame in this digital era. Especially, the ones who have fame and fortune attached to them. At the same time, these attributes as ldo add up to pride and non- human characteristics amongst people. How I see a case of a famous drama writer, Khalil ur Rehman Qamar is a person, a misunderstood and overhyped guy.

He is a born genius but not a masterpiece creator, otherwise he would have had produced at least one great fiction or non fiction book. He is a drama and film writer, and he has to put boundaries over his intellectual capabilities due to the pressure of the producers,channels, and of the celebrities with whom he prefers to work. 

He had produced great dramas for Pakistan Television Network,PTV and for private channels in the past like "Dastak Aur Darwaza", "Boota From Toba Tek Singh", Landa Bazar, Laal Ishq, Mein Mar Gayee Shaukst Ali, Anokhi, Tou Dil Ka Kia Hua, Pyaray Afzal, Mera Naam Yousaf Hai, Sadqey Tumhare, Love, Life Aur Lahore, Mere Paas Tum Ho. Done of his popular films are "Punjab Nahin Jaungi", "London Nahin Jaoonga" etc.

He is a very find writer with great storylines, and especially a master of powerful dialogues but unfortunately he is very proud of his intellect and craft. He has mentioned it many forums. Seems like he is addicted to hud ien fame, and the highest level of respect given to him on the current media drama and film culture if Pakistan. He couldn't inhale it, and digest ig end that's why we see him bashing everyone in interviews or in his personal affairs being exposed over social media.

Nobody has a right to attack the self respect it self esteem of others, and to consider him or her beyond criticism. This arrogance and pride leschim to be defamed in the form of writing failures like "Gentleman" drama or "Sunn Mere Dil", being flopped dbd highly criticized as worst entertainment plays. But another aspect is that he jx against fake and paid feminism and Aurat March agenda, and had a fight with paid agent kafies who want free society of all immoral acts in Pakistan, and that's why liberal, secular minded women of mefua and focual media, and their like-minded men start as oreading venom and hatred over all forums. What's your point if view over it....??

When Life Gets You into a Paradigm Shift and Difficult to Inhale the Change

Stress Factor on Change

The most important thing that we forget to mention to ourselves, and of course to others is that "Change may be constant". But it is difficult to inhale and to get easily aligned with what's new in our lives. We all long for the greater good and strive to achieve our best. But when things are in a transitionary phase, there is a positive change. there is But one that puts us into a lot of upheavals, both externally and internally even more. I am here to give you an example from my personal life, and the big change that comes only a few months back. We moved from our ancestral home to another one, as ours was sold due to our whole family's consent. 

We were long looking for a serious buyer who could get our sunny and windy home with a stretching garden all around at a reasonable market price. It happened, and then we got the money. I have moved to a used but good spacious house with my own consent though under lots of pressure from the peer family group. But my brother with his family has moved to a new house, and our mother lives as per her desire in both houses. What seemed to be a joyous change, and we were looking for a greater good change in our financial situation, independent home, new car, startup of a new business, and a sense of ownership is more confused and stressed out. 

The new house with all independence and so-called authority that I wanted to feel exists nowhere. I was much more secure and cozy and there was an element of homelike at the older house which was built by my later father. I feel that my real whole life has passed in that house in the Garden Town of Lahore. The old big fruit trees, flowery plants, the e enchanting large garden, and lots more can't let me sink into the new house. We are making, making repairs in these houses, renovating and decorating as per our decisions, and likings but there I do not heart in it. It actually seems like a temporary place from where we have to migrate further,, my kids and my wife don't like the area, and we are not welcomed by the neighbors out here. We feel alone. Even if get a chance to pass my old space Garden Town for any reason, then arises a feeling of ownership, love, and deep association. 

My father's last resting place is there in Garden Town, and that is one of the major connecting reasons. But I long so deeply and crave to go back to my old place at times. I feel that I am the small kid who wants to escape from school and go back to his cozy home. But life moves on, and so are we and it can't be helped out. Let's see how my fast-beating heart will come to settle down with the acceptance of a new place, and the change that has already been opened and can't be reversed. As it was done with the will of our whole family which included my assurance too. So the paradigm shift in my case is still creating a lot of mess.....wish me to luck you, sweet guys...!!

Life is a Hard Test and How to Stay Positive in Difficult Times is an Art...!!

Peace, Perceptions and Life

Well, folks! You cannot disagree with the reality that life is a whole load of tests and trials. For some, it is quite an easy road and for others a very hard battle. But who can say that everything is perfect at every moment in his or her life? Nobody! I mean it when I say it with confidence and we have recently faced more than two years of coronavirus, vaccinations, deaths, social distancing, isolation, lockdowns, travel restrictions, unemployment, inflation, anxiety, fear, ailments of ourselves or our loved ones. I guess if it was 2019 and anybody could say he or she doesn't know what is the stress of isolation, trauma, and loss? Then it might be considered that they haven't faced the hard times….!! 

But the overhaul perceptions around the world have been entirely changed. When their masks and social distancing were made compulsory, and you fear every moment that you could catch that deadly COVID-19 Virus from anybody, and from the environment then the human psyche has entirely changed. So is the manipulation of the few over the masses has become a major issue. Each person in more than half of the world has faced these hard times, and the survivors can never forget what the hard times are and will tell stories of them to their children and grandchildren for sure. 

If we leave this coronavirus where it is lying, and then turn towards life then we can easily see that parenting is one of the most difficult tasks, and then getting an education, and searching for jobs, interviews, tests, and the whole job selection process demands lots of patience and confidence to stay cool and positive. Then to be intact with your job or business requires you to struggle to the best of your capabilities every day. Having a family and keeping their social, economic, emotional, and other requirements all intact and perfect is a big big job guy...!!

Staying and getting in love or romance is not that an easy job guys. It is not just dating and sending messages and chatting with your lover. It requires a base and then to bear the pain of losing someone in a relationship or either due to death or departure is a big trauma. Losing a favorite job, and a loss in business or examination is all that painful, and it requires lots of emotional guts to be ready to stand up, start the life journey, and fight against new odds in a way. But people in past times and in current times are not always in panic, anxiety, or depression. They accept the challenges of life with an optimistic approach, and then plan and deal with different situations. 

Having mastery and control over your emotions, and reactions to different happening in individual and collective life is all that matters. LIFE asks you to be a trained player and to behave with the strength of SOUL, at the times when the outer realities are looking against you. It is a time when you need to read motivational books, and blogs and work on your counseling to self-help yourself for having a real sector of love, life, and patience, and to cherish your real SUCCESS. Stay intact for more updates and insights. Thank you guys....!!

Why People Put Their Lust for Worldly Affairs as an Excuse to Perform What They Want..!!

Worldly Desires and Modern Human Psyche

Most people in the current world are prone to worldly desires unlike, the olden times. There were values and courtesy for others, and compassion to serve and care for others. It is not a thing that things were ideal in every era and region but most of the civilized world had some set rules. But the modern world that emerged after the World War 11 is in fact in chaos. Its been decades of wars, cold wars, politics, financial gains, status, race, and more of the barriers that were created. The big chaotic situation that the world has seen arose when we had entered the 21st century. 

The whole social, cultural and financial situation has changed with a continuous presentation of new tools, gadgets, inventions, and the introduction of new mediums of entertainment. There was cinema and radio before the second world war but later there came the television that became the heart and soul of every home. The shows, dramas, documentaries, and films showcased on television are part and parcel of our lives. The world and especially the first world countries like the USA, Canada, United Kingdom, France, Germany, Italy, Spain Sweden, Norway, Denmark Holland, and many other countries gave permission and introduction to open up casinos, bars, pubs, clubs and there was a legal pornographic cinema industry being established. 

So, the values kept on changing as there was a big change in the socio-cultural set up of Europe and America. Lots of men got killed in the wars and women had to ear bread and butter for their families. It led to a free society as women were the equal partners in offices, banks, restaurants, the retail industry, sex workers, and lots more. But the real problem arose as the societies evolved not for the better but for the worst with segregated families, broken families, wandering kids being grown in all types of companies. The crime rate exceeded. So, did we see that the world started saying "Mind Your Own Business". The phrase and psyche were developed due to chaos and misguidance. 

Then we see that the world has changed and people are quite merciless, blunt, rude, selfishness has prevailed on a larger scale. The timely relationships have been a predominant factor, and most people don't want to be in long-term relations of commitment. They want a good time pass, and the present time is full of online connections, social media days, and the concept of being viral is a "New Normal". Now it is time that you cannot ask anyone to stop doing any bad act in front of others. If some person out of compassion asks his or her own siblings, kids, and others that the time relationships over calling apps, social media, and being in a social circle that may damage the whole lives and reputation. But the other people can easily say. It's their life and they have every right to live in their own preferred way. 

Yeah! We all are born free but as Aristotle said said "Man is Born free but has to live in Social and Legal Chains". That's absolutely true. Now people ask you to hand out with them and have a one-night stand and for them, it is okay to follow their lustful paths, and then move on, without even saying goodbye and a reason to leave someone who is really emotionally involved. But the young generation says that life is full of chances and they need to fulfill their world worldly desires and to get their lives being served.

Unlike our ancestors who always thought that commitment, friendship, relationships, and a word of mouth were more valuable than a legal document. So, we see the modern world is more prone to divert and to ditch the real feeling, thoughts, and emotions, people are considered honorable and valuable based on their financial and societal status and on their cowardly achievements. Good hearts, minds, and, souls are just good to quote but not for a longer relationship. 

Playing with Weak Emotions of Others is Also a Crime Against Humanity..!!

Emotional Exploitation is Against Humanity

I have seen in my life so many twists and turns, and with each new experience, I am better able to learn something new about human psychology. I am well aware of the fact that human feelings and emotions are one of the most vulnerable things in the world. Those people who claim themselves to have strong control over their nerves are seen shaken when there is something problematic happens with their loved ones. So, emotional intelligence or EIQ is now a more important determining factor than the age-old IQ result. The factors which contribute to the development of a human mind are very complex and vary from person to person. 

It is a digital world with gadgets and apps that connect people worldwide. But don't you think that the emotions and feelings are fading out. It is so common to write "I Love You" to anyone while chatting. But does it mean anything? In most cases, it does not. Actually, the gaps and distains in sharing and caring among the loved ones, within families, and a shortage of true friends is a universal crisis. So, the main purpose of most of the people who use online mediums and social media is to kill their time, and they end u to hurt others in many cases. 

Love and admiration are two tools that can melt the hearts like candles. So, it is a common strategy to try to understand what others are lacking in their lives, and most of the time if they feel alone and if ditched by a lover or a friend then it is so easy. To exploit this emotional space. When there is no meaning to saying Love You then don't say it. If you don't feel a friendly vibe for someone then don't assure it to others but be nice and compassionate instead. Especially after the outbreak of the COVID-19 pandemic, humanity is living in a very fragile state. The pressure and fear of losing loved ones, and loss their own lives has overshadowed all other goals. 

Now everyone tries to stay safe and secure and to spend time with the people who really mean something. At this time we all need to be truthful and follow our hearts but be conscious in telling others how we feel. As the emotional state of most of the people in affected areas is very sensitive. If you don't like or love someone then it is a humble request not to say it to that person. Here I can see many people who hate others and are not honest about their true feeling for others. 

Whether it is a deliberate effort or an unconscious state of expression varies with each individual. So, it is time to express our feeling for others as to how we feel, and don't let others be ruined with your words if you dislike them, or even when you don't feel any empathy or sympathy for them. Instead, just stay the way you are and let others move on with general friendship or social relationships. Isn't it a wise and more humanistic approach...??

Will the World See an Old Normal as a Part of Routine Life..!!

Post-pandemic Worlds and Human Stress Factor

The most important thing in any human being’s life is to look for the greater good in life. The world was free to move, learn, excel to be social, and have intellectual growth. The Covid-19 has changed the whole world psyche, and that too with confinement and being on the brink of nervous shattering lockdowns. The World is fast emerging with remote assistance, work from home, and the new life pattern is inhaling the whole world with negativity, stress, depression, and anxiety. Fear of the unknown is all out in the heart, minds, and souls of individuals. That’s why we see lots of people getting frustrated and you hardly find people with peaceful facial expressions.

Whether it is subject to the financial crises that are caused by lots of people who were earning through daily wages. There were lots of occupations that required daily work and income generation. The restrictions and impositions have stopped the fiscal cycle, and at the same time, this pandemic has separated humans from others in a different way. Firstly, we used to look at the breakup of the family system in the west, and now we see that people are fearful of each other as they might not catch the infection virus.

Most of the world is facing the same situation and it has ruled out the first world countries with extra luxuries and the concept of welfare states. Now everyone is fighting the battle of life on an individual basis. We see sudden closure of flights to multiple countries. Though Covid-19 Vaccination has been done very rapidly in 2021, the process is continually going on. But the virus mutation is so strong that it is on a constant evolution. So, life is quite struck, and in third world countries, it has damaged the already not so good education system. Online teaching and learning programs are not as much developed as in rich countries. Everybody cannot afford smart gadgets like laptops, tablets, and smartphones. Many people are deprived of internet connection.

So, the major aspect of life is to get on a verge of better living and to find a stable lifestyle. Here it is very important for each individual to remain hopeful, and to grab the strong pillar of faith for all the right reasons. The vaccination process is not preventive but can secure a person as per assumption. So, the world needs to be more soft, compassionate, and patient towards fellow human beings. At the same time, a strong belief in the afterlife and doing good deeds as an investment for having a place in paradise will change the human perception and will add to the optimism.

2022 - A Desire and Wish to be Better Humans with Pandemic Free World

New Year 2022 - Pandemic and Human Psychology 

he past two years have taught us all as human beings to over think as if we are living a life worth living! What is the real meaning and purpose of this mortal life that can be over at any instant, with a catch of a microscopic virus, and one is all dead or can face a near death experience.

Covid-19 is not just a life threatening and contagious virus. But it is a warning sign for mankind as if we are living on a right path. If we are making a justifiable living on this planet. Can we be called the real Human beings? Yeah! It's a question that we need to ask to our souls. Have we fulfilled our duties of being a compassionate human or just living here like the selfish creation.

No, this reality check in the form of fearful pandemic must shake our souls, and it must make us the real humans. Ones, who live and let others live with peace, love, compassion, self-esteem, freedom, without any fear, to say hopeful and make others believe in hope and great destiny with our little but shiny acts of humanity. I feel that it's been two long years but human beings haven't learnt that Divine Lesson, which came with the pandemic.

To help others, show respect, to not to monger hate, wars, crimes, yo not to take away lives and honor of others for the sake of false egies and political agendas. We haven't even stuck closer to our faiths that we follow, to ask for individual and collective forgiveness by God Almighty

 The differences, hatred, crime rate has risen, and to feel the pain of others and of loss is still self-centric. Unfortunately, we haven't grown as a species or mankind, and have done nothing to stop others from doing wrong. This corona virus hasn't created a buzz in our hearts, minds and souls to feel the pain of others. To make this New Year 2022, to be not just free of the prevalent pandemic but of all hatred, injustices, crimes, differences. The corona virus has been mutated dozens of times, and here is the fifth strong wave in the whole world with the name "Omicron". But humans haven't been mutated yo be happy and let peace, freedom and happiness, being prevalent in the world as well.

Let's all work hard from now on in 2022 and years ahead, a d kerp on praying that we all learn a true lesson of forgiveness and of humanity before a big loss or disaster comes in the world like the ancient times....Stay blessed, compassionate and prosperous everyone...!!